Life sometimes is a bit much isn’t it?
What happens? Do we loose perspective? Do we feel that we are about to loose control? Like the actual feeling that you might just go really bat shit once and for all? It can be frightening, even for the smartest of the smart and the toughest of the tough.
Do we let our emotions build and build over time without addressing them? My guess is a big YES. I suspect this one is huge, but others might disagree. Day in day out, going through emotions that don’t help you in the least bit and slowly, steadily, but surely you become the emotion.
My teacher often told me that you MUST FEEL your emotions. Truly feel them…the trick is not to become them (he also said thats what makes a true martial artist, is someone that is so in balance with his own emotions that they can easily feel others emotions, and as such always be ahead of them).
When you allow yourself to truly feel your emotions, they become less all encompassing. Let me “splain”: When you regularly practice feeling your emotions and giving them attention, you slowly over time become aware that they are simply but one of your emotions. All those wacky little emotions we have can happily coexist together if we let them. The problems come when we push all else to the side to become just that one emotion. The anger can consume you, or the jealousy or the rage or the sadness. Make sense?
For all you Remo Williams fans. Shun the old sinaju master said it best. “Fear is just a feeling. You feel hot. You feel hungry. You feel angry. You feel afraid. Fear can never kill you. ”
Here are afew ways I’ve found to stack the odds in your favor to make the job a heck of a lot easier:
1. Limit caffeine. No need to quit if you’re a regular drinker, but stick to one morning cup. That’s it. Coffee is comfort “food” for mot of us, so many folks tend to drink more when stressed, trust me you don’t need extra when you’re emotional life is on the heavy side.
2. eliminate or minimize alcohol consumption. no explanation necessary here and I’ve tried the alternative and it don’t work.
3. Exercise. At YOUR level and a level that makes you feel good. Don’t go nuts with this. You don’t need the extra stress hormones.
4.Sleep routine, might be the most important of all but synergistically works to capacity with the above 3. Get into a ROUTINE. 9:30 lights out in bed and read under low light…so that it’s a little straining. Yes you read that right.
5. Read FeelGood Eating LOL, for recipe ideas so that you can eat real food. In all Seriousness, make sure you eat right. Comfort food lurking everywhere. Cooking is very calming if you let it, get to it and take care of yourself.
Like yummy avocados:
My friend George just steps out in his yard for his. (click on his name if you’re into tennis)
As to my own emotional balance….I’m a bit fortunate:
Fortunate because when you’re in love, life is just a little simpler and easier.